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How to Divorce Smarter: Avoid Court, Save Money & Protect Your Peace

Released Tuesday, 29th July 2025

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How to Divorce Smarter: Avoid Court, Save Money & Protect Your Peace

Tuesday, 29th July 2025

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📄 Episode Description:

Divorce mediation and flat-fee legal strategies can help you avoid court, save thousands, and protect your peace. Learn how to divorce smarter today.

In this episode of Doing Life Different, Lesa Koski interviews New Jersey attorney, mediator, and men’s divorce strategist John Nachlinger. Together, they reveal how the traditional divorce system often profits from your pain—and how you can take back control.

John shares how his flat-fee law firm helps couples resolve their divorce quickly, without unnecessary drama or legal costs. From emotional regulation to co-parenting and coaching, this episode explores how divorce can be done differently—with dignity, strategy, and support.

Whether you’re just starting the divorce process or want to avoid court altogether, this episode will help you understand how to divorce smarter, protect your children, and heal with purpose.

⏱️ Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction to guest John Nachlinger

(02:48) Why John left traditional divorce litigation

(05:35) Flat-fee divorce services vs. hourly billing

(09:12) How mediation speeds up the divorce process

(12:45) When divorce becomes a war—and how to stop it

(17:20) John's personal story of divorce, adoption, and co-parenting

(21:33) Are all exes narcissists? Understanding emotional dynamics

(27:58) Coaching men through divorce and emotional readiness

(32:49) Common mistakes men make during divorce

(37:20) How women can benefit when their ex has a coach

(40:05) The rise of mediation and decline of court dependency

(45:10) Final thoughts on divorce strategy and healing

💡 Key Takeaways:

The legal system often profits from family conflict—there is a better way.
Flat-fee divorce services help eliminate cost confusion and conflict.
Emotional regulation is critical to reaching fair outcomes.
Coaching men through divorce leads to healthier co-parenting and faster resolution.
Mediation is not just effective—it’s often the smartest choice for families.

👤 Guest Bio:

John Nachlinger is a New Jersey attorney, mediator, and founder of Net Squire, a flat-fee law firm designed to help clients divorce without destructive court battles. He’s also the creator of the Men’s Divorce Network and host of the podcast Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed. John specializes in coaching men through the emotional and legal complexities of divorce to reach faster, healthier resolutions.

🔗 Resource Links:

Net Squire Flat-Fee Divorce
Men’s Divorce Network – Support & Coaching
Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed Podcast
Lesa Koski – Mediation & Coaching

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Mindset, movement, and faith after 40—because midlife isn’t a crisis, it’s your comeback.Welcome to Doing Life Different with Lesa Koski, the podcast for women over 40 who are ready to rewrite the rules, reclaim their joy, and rediscover their purpose. Whether you're navigating divorce, rediscovering your health, deepening your faith, or learning how to have fun again—you’re in the right place.Host Lesa Koski—wife, mom, coach, and seasoned mediator—brings real talk, relatable wisdom, and expert interviews to guide you through midlife reinvention with grace and grit.In each episode, you’ll get practical tools and empowering conversations on:Mindset & personal growthFaith & spiritual connectionFitness, movement & healthDivorce, marriage & relationshipsFun, purpose & starting fresh in the second half of lifeThis isn’t just self-help. It’s soul-level transformation. Get ready to do life different—because your next chapter starts now.Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.This is a podcast about thriving through Cancer, taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.About the Host:I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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