Jessi navigates life with ADHD using a complex web of coping strategies. She used to strive for absolute perfection, but feels overwhelming guilt when she forgets something or loses focus at work or at home. On this episode, How To! co-host Carvell Wallace introduces Jessi to Dr. Sarah Wheeler, an educational psychologist who specializes in ADHD. Dr. Wheeler shares her own experience with ADHD and helps Jessi chart a sustainable path forward to self-acceptance, minus the anxiety and shame.

Dr. Wheeler’s Resources and Recommendations

Sarah’s ADHD story

Sarah’s Substack and podcast

More about Sarah and her work

Joan Wilder’s site Help for Women with ADHD

Salif Muhamane’s Ted Talk, “ADHD Sucks, But Not Really”

Kate Weber’s Women & ADHD podcast

You’ve Always Been This Way: “Hello, I’m New Here,” by McSweeney’s columnist Taylor Harris

Check out: How To Navigate Adult Autism and our discussion of ADHD and organizing in How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

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