How to Spot Being Used by A Friend? Podcast Insights

Every day we interact with different people and meet new ones. Some of them become true friends that we can always count on, but others just try to benefit from the friendship we have given them.

It is not always easy to identify when we are being used by someone we trust. However, there are certain situations or characteristics of the relationship that are very particular and that make it easier for us to identify a negative friendship or the interested approach of others. Here are some keys to do so.

You only hear from that person when they need something

This is the basic characteristic of a fake or interested friendship, since your friend will only show up when he needs something from you. It can be very simple things, such as lending him a book or taking him to a certain place to more complicated situations such as borrowing money. The point is that it can take a long time without showing up and when it does what it looks for is to satisfy the need for it.

Of course, helping your friends is a sign of love and affection, but if you realize that this person only comes to you to ask for things, perhaps it is time to put a limit or an end to that situation.

Go out with your friends without you

It is logical to want our friends to know and relate to each other. But if someone we have just included in our circle starts going out with your friends without inviting you and almost secretly, it can be a red flag.

It is important to be objective if this situation arises as sometimes we can feel a little threatened or jealous for no real reason. Therefore, it is advisable to analyze the situation well before moving away or separating that person. In these cases, asking is better than assuming.

Use your personal information for your own benefit

Some false friends approach for the sole purpose of obtaining data or information about us that they can use to their advantage. This situation may not be so clear cut and sometimes we don't take it so seriously.

The situations that can arise are very varied, so you have to stay alert. It may be the case that this friend tries to get the data of your contacts that could give him a job or get some favors on your behalf. He could find you involved in misunderstandings or serious problems with your contacts without having any idea what happened.

You get constant negatives

A real friendship is sincere and selfless, however, sometimes we need our friends. Whether you need to be listened to, a favor or help with a situation, if you find that your friend always refuses to help you, it is likely that the friendship is not so sincere.

This point is closely related to the first, since it is very common that false friends always ask you for help or try to benefit from you, but disappear when you need them. Not all the people we meet in our life intend to use or harm us, but it is important to be vigilant to avoid being used by those who would.

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