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Time together doesn't always equal time well spent. Through nearly 35 years of marriage, we've learned that while quantity time happens naturally in a relationship, quality time requires intention, presence, and deliberate effort.

Quality time ranks as one of the five love languages for many people, but we believe it transcends preferences to become a fundamental pillar of any healthy relationship. When two people share a life together—whether they're working side by side, eating meals together, or simply occupying the same space—it's dangerously easy to confuse proximity with connection.

The distractions of our digital age have only deepened this challenge. Phones, watches, and constant notifications create an "attention economy" that steals focus from the persons physically present with us. True quality time means turning devices face down, making eye contact, asking meaningful questions, and genuinely listening to understand not just what your partner is saying, but who they're becoming.

The beauty of cultivating quality time is the foundation it creates for navigating difficult seasons together. After thousands of genuine conversations, even the most challenging discussions become possible because you've established trust through consistent, intentional connection. This principle extends beyond marriage to every important relationship in your life—children, friends, and family all benefit from the gift of your undivided attention.

We encourage you to examine your relationships this week. Are you simply occupying space together, or are you truly connecting? The difference might seem subtle, but the impact is profound. Turn your phone upside down. Look them in the eyes. Ask meaningful questions. Your relationships will thank you.

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