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For Autistic People

Please be aware that my experience is not intended to speak for all Autists, I am seeking first to crack the code of the double empathy problem from my own limited experience, so I declare myself open to your views of what I am missing.

If you are like me, you will probably not be “hanging out” in thinking, in a public persona with a tight story running of a defined self in the moment that someone speaks to you.  You will likely be in the experience of flow state, centered (or even lost) in the experience of the moment.

This is why I, and maybe you, are startled and unprepared to respond to the abrupt, and often impatient, language and emotional patterns of “small talk” that Allistic people believe is a friendly invitation to communicate.  

How are we to remain authentic when we are required to go to the extraordinary effort of twisting ourselves into a shape to “fit in”.  This is coping and masking, an adaptive strategy that carries a high cost in energy, as well as other costs.

Here is where it gets difficult, we can take a stand around our authentic experience with friends and in social settings

I believe it falls to us to free ourselves from any self-judgement that the thinking, self-based way of being of Allistic people is better than the flow state of consciousness and experience of Autistic people.  This is for me the heart of Autism as a difference, and not a disorder.  

I do not believe that playing a game of refining and defining our self in the thinking world of Allistic people is our nature as Autists… I would submit that our flow state, sustained in the sense of a transpersonal self, the self of the whole is our nature.

How can we get a cleaner and deeper connection to our true selves, through the network that is the field of the whole?

I would start with recognizing and accepting what is so with you.  Be the awareness present in this moment, not the movie that always seems to be turned up way too loudly.

Connect to your body, and your emotions, especially the maelstrom of emotional dysregulation in those overwhelming moments.  Be ok with your overwhelm, your emotional and energetic body.  

If you can see or feel a bit of what I am pointing to, you will be aware that I am recommending practices to add to your routines to remind ourselves of our true nature and to clean up the instrument of our physical, emotional and energetic bodies to experience the simple truth of being awareness itself in a field of the whole of creation.

So the first practice I would recommend is to value your flow state equally to the “self-ing” experience of your Allistic friends.  Make it ok to meet in the middle, negotiating the terms of the conversation to let you both be authentically expressed.

One of the second practices I recommend is attention training, meditation, and/or mindfulness.  This can be experienced in any one or several of many forms.   Each are a practice of letting go the mental forms to be in Flow State in your experience of reality.  TM offers a rich depth of practice. There are many resources available on YouTube and in your community.  Look for simple forms of practice.. and practice.

As you start to identify more and more not as the body and not as the mind, the mind will reveal itself as “not being you” over time.  The programs that we run in this mind to defend ourselves (sentinels) or cope (as I did) these programs start to be revealed in relief to the increasing mental quiet.  These programs are always running.  

This was my answer to the riddle I have experienced in decades of practice… How was it that I was gaining more and more access to my subtle body frequencies in my spiritual practice, only to find that the scenery never changed.  The scenery was my projections from the programs