Welcome back to Dolly in My Pocket — a short solo series from The extra-Ordinary Leader podcast, created to give you practical, mindset-shifting reflections that fit into even the busiest week.

In this episode, I talk about something I call changing the rules — and no, not the legal ones. I’m talking about the unconscious, unspoken rules we live by without even realising. Things like “I should always be nice”, “I can’t interrupt”, “This is just the way I am” — all the fixed ideas that silently dictate how we behave, lead, communicate, and show up.

I share a story about learning to play rugby for the first time (spoiler: I didn’t love it at first!) — and what that experience taught me about resistance, fixed mindsets, and how our “rules” can hold us back from something better.

If you’ve ever rolled your eyes at a new idea or written something off before giving it a chance, this one’s for you.

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