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Therapist Andrea Dindinger reveals how the invisible mental and emotional labor in relationships can create disconnection and resentment when not acknowledged. She shares practical strategies for couples to identify, discuss, and redistribute this hidden workload.

• "Invisible work" includes mental load of remembering details, planning, and coordinating that often goes unnoticed but creates exhaustion
• The powerful phrase "I need you to think with me" invites partnership without criticism or blame
• Creating lists of contributions and sharing them with partners reveals surprising insights about relationship dynamics
• One partner often carries more emotional regulation responsibilities due to socialization and conditioning
• Approaching relationship challenges with curiosity rather than defensiveness transforms connection
• Breaking destructive relationship loops requires someone taking the leadership role
• The vulnerability of asking for help creates opportunities for deeper intimacy

For more resources including Andrea's course "The Loop Breaker," visit her website  andreadindinger,com where you'll find tools to stop having the same fights repeatedly and transform your relationship patterns.

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